Life Coach Nicole Gravagna - Denver, Colorado, United States

Coach Nicole Gravagna

Denver  ·  Colorado
Personal Coaching  ·  Relationships Coaching  ·  Family Coaching  ·  Romantic Coaching  ·  Career Coaching  ·  Business Coaching  ·  Communication Coaching  ·  Stress Coaching

Executive Coaching and Leadership Development Anger and Negativity Family Relationships and Divorce Interpersonal Relationships and Negotiation

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About Coach Nicole Gravagna

I use a neuroscience-based approach to coaching. First, we will assess your values and strategies through a scientific assessment called Pairin. When we work together, we will use your personal data to identify your values, strategies, and blind spots. Then, we'll put those facets of your life into context. You'll choose your own desired direction and we'll map out a path for you to take.

Specialties

Stretch goals and getting unstuck. These two specialties sound very different, but they are two sides of the same coin. Stretch goals might be career-based or they might be focused on personal passions. Stuck might mean that you are ready for a new job or it might mean that you are ready to let go of an unsatisfying personal situation. Either way, we can do this together.

Licenses & Certifications

PhD, Neuroscience Author of MindSET Your Manners Disruptive Learning Technology Certification

Coaching Rates

Have a free 15-minute initial discovery session with your coach.

Have a 30-minute phone or video call with your coach.

Have a 60-minute phone or video call with your coach.

This package includes 100+ minutes of calls plus unlimited text coaching per month. Sign up for this monthly package as needed to make progress on your goals.

Client Reviews for Nicole Gravagna

Nicole has provided invaluable coaching and has been a tremendous boost for my career. Through her insightful and thought-provoking questions, as well as straightforward feedback, she has helped me uncover obstacles on my path, make full use of my existing talents, and allowed me to become a better leader.
― James L.
I first met Nicole while navigating a very stressful and daunting transition in my life to a new city, as I ran away from an unidentified source. At the time, I had many strongly held beliefs about how the world worked and what I was to accomplish in it. Many personal hangups were in my way, but I was operating with tunnel vision and lacked plenty of self-awareness. Nicole coached me through this turbulent period of uncertainty, change, and conflict by teaching me how to focus my internal attention, shift my perspective, and get out of my own way. Looking back, it's clear to me that Nicole helped me lay a strong emotional and psychological foundation that continues to pay countless dividends in both life and business.
― Director of Finance @ Patent Firm
Nicole has been the best mentor and life coach I could ask for. Unlike others, Nicole never pressures me into a decision. She provides insight, after asking for permission, and asks questions for me to find the right path. From what I’ve experienced, this is better for long-term growth and better for development. Nicole gives you permission to experience your emotions and encourages you to leave room for discovery. By rooting herself in facts and neuroscience, you learn through osmosis ways to better react to a range of situations. I highly recommend Nicole Gravagna, PhD, to anyone looking to explore themselves and grow into their fullest self.
― Account Manager, WPromote

Case Studies for Nicole Gravagna

Executive summary Text-based coaching allows for a real-time interaction between coach and client when the client is in the middle of a challenge. The real-time approach is more powerful and faster than an hourly meeting approach because the client is able to receive coaching while they are in the midst of their life-challenge. Instead of relaying a memory of a situation to the coach after the fact, the client is able to text about the situation in real-time. This real-time access to the client allows the coach to suggests productive shifts in attention during the event. As the client learns to shift their attention, even while experiencing emotional pain, the client becomes more adept at making the perspective shift that is needed to change course in the moment. Case study Method and objective Text-based coaching is a method of providing real-time support for a client. This case includes a client who sought to feel more motivated. No phone calls, emails, or in person sessions were included in the single month of coaching, just texting and occasional links (to CNVC documents). The client was assessed using the Pairin Assessment as part of the coaching process. The total time that coach and client interacted over the 30 day period was about 2.5 hours. Client challenges This individual had become unmotivated and described his daily experience as either emptiness-like depression or extremity-shaking anxiety. He saw a need for change in his life but was unmotivated to do anything about it and he was unsure about what could be done. Clarifying details The client was still going to work and doing his job, but he was sleeping through his home hours and drinking more heavily than he wanted. The client had a budding romantic relationship that wasn’t going well. The client was interested (and willing) to make a significant change in his life. The client was willing to use text-based coaching during work and home hours as needed during the course of the month. The client agreed to be forthright and honest about his history and behaviors over text. The NeuroEQ solution The client was provided with a dedicated coach who worked with him entirely through the modality of texting for one month. The coach established a trust-worthy pattern of availability. The client was encouraged to leave messages for the coach when the coach was unavailable and the client had things on his mind. The coach would then respond reliably when available. Professional coaching clients have home lives in addition to their work lives. Although they may claim that they are doing fine in their job, a client who is struggling at home will not have the energy to grow or excel at work. Family challenges, illnesses, or other non-professional struggles are taken very seriously at NeuroEQ. Home-life relationships are considered canaries in the coal mine and any changes in those relationships during coaching are noted. The coach used a four-pronged approach to help the client regain motivation. The coach established the idea that the client had choices and any patterns in his life were results of those choices. This idea was reiterated over the month of text interaction to establish a sense of empowerment. The coach identified the client’s use of high self-blame and low self-confidence as strategies to avoid making an effort toward improving his life. Both traits were identified in the Pairin Assessment and recognized in the text conversation. As the client became aware of these strategies he agreed that he was indeed choosing these behaviors. He also agreed that he was willing to stop choosing these behaviors. The client was clear with the coach that he didn’t know how to stop choosing high self-blame and low self-confidence. The coach taught the client to both notice and control his attention through self-awareness (the idea that a person can watch themselves behaving without necessarily controlling the behavior) and non-judgement (the idea that you can’t reliably judge a behavior to be good or bad without seeing the outcome which is impossible because all outcomes are hidden in an unknowable future). Then, using attentional awareness, the client was instructed to notice the physical sensations associated with his emotional pain. Finally, the Non-Violent Communication Needs Inventory and Feelings Inventory were used to teach the client to identify his own feelings and unmet needs and to design successful strategies to get those needs fulfilled. Results Due to the real-time capabilities of text-based coaching, this client made accelerated strides showing increased happiness and motivation in a very short period of time. Within a single month, the client learned successful emotional management skills and was able to take action to begin improving his own quality of life. The client was even able to stop his own anxiety attack using attentional awareness during the coaching process. The coach and client interacted most days, occasionally alternate days, over text. The client reached out during particularly intense emotional experiences which allowed for real-time reminders from the coach of how to apply attentional awareness to the physical sensations associated with emotional pain. The client was unexpectedly laid off a few days into the month of coaching and was able to secure reliable management-level work before the end of the month. Near the end of the month, the client was no longer fixated on his feelings and lack of motivation. Instead, he was working, courting a romantic interest, and putting effort toward an art exhibit (a hobby of his) in his town. Coaching timeline The client seemed hopeless on the first day of coaching. For the first 19 days, the client contacted the coach when he felt an intense emotion, a worrisome lack of emotion, or if he just felt like chatting. The coach responded with a mirroring of the client's experience to help him learn the vocabulary of self-awareness and encourage him to start recognizing his ability to shift his own attention. By day 20 the client was able to articulate his emotions along with a physical description of his sensations and behaviors suggesting that he had become more aware of himself and his experience beyond blanket descriptors like “depression” and “anxiety.” By day 24, the client was able to look on the NVC Feelings/Needs Inventory to identify his feelings, then have a detailed conversation with the coach about his current needs and how to manage them in real-time. Previously, the client was unable to guess at his own unmet needs. Direct quotes from coaching Day 1 of coaching This conversation sets the stage for the client’s mental state and feelings of being wounded and out of control at the start of coaching. Client: “It’s not only her. It's me. Ever since [ex-wife] broke me by divorcing me on Christmas eve while we were exchanging stockings, my life devolved. I thought I was going to get a reset and I apparently couldn't hold it together. I blame myself” Client: Later adding “It was timed out exactly as she planned. She did it to psychologically break me so I would not fight for anything that I deserved. And I didn’t." Coach: “What's your plan now? Are you interested to get past it, or does it feel more important to be with that psychological devastation for a while longer?” Client: “I wish I knew. Depression has been hard on me. I can't shake it. It was always there but now it's overwhelming.” Coach: “Hm. Yeah, depression is unmotivating isn't it. Are you willing to feel emotional pain or still stuck in that numb phase?” Client: “Mostly numb. The actual pain takes me out frequently but it's not in my control. It simply takes over.” Day 30 of coaching This conversation highlights the first time that the client arrested his own anxiety attack during the coaching process. Previously, the client would self-regulate his anxiety by giving up on his day and going back to bed. Client: “I'm so anxious about this in-person interview tomorrow, my leg is literally shaking. Any words of wisdom?” Coach: “Observe the leg. Let it shake. Let it begin to shake your whole body. Let every cell of your being rattle loose. Surrender to the shake.” Client: Ten minutes later, “Took a minute to relax into it. But it is basically gone now.” Client: Two minutes later, “A chunk of anxiety seems to have fallen away also.” Coach: “Good luck tomorrow!” Client: “Thank you for everything.” Follow up The client landed the job and started working a few days later. The client had also begun to attract the positive attention of a familiar romantic interest who had previously rejected his advances, citing that he required “too much emotional labor” from her. When we began coaching, he was desperate for her devotion and affection. Over the month, he began to realize that his intense needs were making it impossible for her to get closer. He discovered that he could move his attention away from desires and unmet needs when he was around her and that attention shift allowed him to enjoy her company instead of becoming saturated with wanting more from her. The client reported feeling better. He connected his new freedom from anxiety to having landed a job immediately. However, it should be noted that the client was alternately depressed and anxious before he lost his job at the start of coaching. Time will tell whether he will be able to continue stabilizing his mood. Client: Six days later: “I shouldn't be surprised, but this whole having a job thing has eased my anxiety and depression. It helps that [Romantic Interest] and I are still doing our thing, but really I think that it has kept me from having the time to dwell and worry.”

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